Do narcissists say sorry you feel that way?

It’s pretty easy to identify a narcissist’s apology, simply because they won’t take responsibility for what they did. “They are in essence, though, using the apology as a way of gaslighting you and invalidating your experience: ‘I’m sorry you feel that way,’ meaning ‘you probably shouldn’t. ‘”

What does it mean when someone says I’m sorry you feel that way?

“I’m sorry you feel that way,” is all you can say. “It can mean sad, in the sense that I am sad that you feel that way. Or it can mean apologetic, which can imply that I am apologizing for something I said or did that resulted in your feelings being hurt,” Dr. Wiley says.

Why does a narcissist say sorry?

5. Narcissists use apologies to return the advantage to them. Narcissists seem to think saying they’re sorry and will get them instant forgiveness. An apology is a get-out-of-jail-free card for narcissists, and when they play it, it’s to get back their power — not give it away.

What happens when a narcissist apologizes?

An apology is part of the illusion of good in the relationship. You get hooked in with the emotions of hopefulness and relief when your narcissist apologizes to you. This hope is something that you need because prior to the apology you were hurt and shut out. After the apology, you feel relieved and can relax again.

What do you say to a narcissist apology?

The Conditional Apology: “I’m sorry if…” “I am sorry if something I said offended you.” “I am sorry if your feelings were hurt.” “I am sorry if I may have done anything wrong.” Conditional apologies fall short of a full apology, suggesting only that something may have been hurtful.

Can you believe a narcissist apology?

Do not be fooled by a narcissists apology. You believe that maybe he means hes sorry or that he wont do whatever it was he did again. But, rest assured, the narcissist uses an apology as part of the cycle of abuse. When you receive an apology from a narcissist you believe at least four things: He is truly sorry.