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How do you stop hating yourself for your past?
How to Forgive Yourself
- Focus on your emotions.
- Acknowledge the mistake out loud.
- Think of each mistake as a learning experience.
- Give yourself permission to put this process on hold.
- Have a conversation with your inner critic.
- Notice when you are being self-critical.
- Quiet the negative messages of your inner critic.
What does hate do to your brain?
Hatred changes the chemistry in the brain. It stimulates the area in the brain responsible for planning and execution of motion. This part triggers aggression while feeling hateful to either defend or attack.
When we make mistakes we can liberate ourselves?
When we make mistakes, we can liberate ourselves, instead of shaming ourselves. Of course this depends on the magnitude of our mistakes, but for most of them we can opt for a ReDo. Why is a ReDo possible? Because the meaning of everything is made up.
What to do when you have self-hatred?
Self-hatred often comes in a moment when you don’t have compassion for yourself. If you have a period where you’re feeling good, try to write out a list of what you love about yourself. If you can’t think of anything, don’t panic. Love is a strong emotion that’s hard to feel toward yourself in a low point.
What does it feel like to let go of your past?
Letting go of our own past—or the past we have created in our heads—can feel shaky and “ungrounded,” like a boat that has slipped its mooring. When we try to forgive ourselves, we’re trying to release something that feels like it is part of us . We’re releasing who we were in the moment that we did whatever it was.
What does it mean to forgive yourself for what you hate?
It means accepting your negative thoughts, mistakes, and failures, and understanding them as messy human moments. It means forgiving yourself in the same way you’d forgive a loved one for snapping at you in a moment of frustration. The next time you find yourself spiraling down the self-hatred rabbit hole, try to cut yourself some slack.