Should I tell my therapist I have feelings for her?

Howes suggested telling your therapist that discussing your relationship is an essential part of your work. Voice your feelings, and let them repair the damage. However, if that doesn’t work, he suggested talking to their supervisor, if they have one, and finding another therapist.

Why do I have feelings for my therapist?

Focus on your personal relationships Most times, these intense feelings are a result of a need not being met in your personal life. Maybe you desire to have a partner who embodies the qualities of your therapist. Or maybe your therapist fills a motherly role that’s missing in your life.

What is transference in therapy and how does it work?

Transference in therapy may be unintentional. A patient redirects feelings about a parent, sibling, or spouse onto the therapist. It could also be intentional or provoked. Your therapist may actively work with you to draw out these feelings or conflicts.

What do therapists think about their clients?

A therapist says what they really think about their clients. “These are my confessions. You may not like what I have to say.” You might’ve seen a therapist or psychologist in real life.

What happens if transference hurts my ability to talk to my therapist?

In the event transference hurts your ability to talk to your therapist, you may need to see a new therapist. The goal of therapy is that you feel comfortable being open and having an honest dialogue with the mental health expert. If transference stands in the way of that practice, therapy won’t be effective.

Is it okay for a therapist to flirt with a client?

“It is never okay for a therapist to flirt or make a move on a client due to the nature of the relationship,” she adds. “As a client you put your trust and vulnerability into a professional, and them acting on that would be violating you and their ethics.”