What happens when you go no contact with a narcissist?

If you’re no longer bringing value to them, then they really don’t have any use for you. But they can be discarding you and still have use for you because they can make you squirm. Thus, if you turn around and you reject that narcissist, and you go no contact, you are basically cutting off their supply.

What to do when a narcissist is pursuing you like this?

Don’t make the mistake of thinking that now things will be on your terms, because any change in their behavior would be short lived. When a Narcissist is pursuing you like this, do not misinterpret this as flattery, or an indication of the depth of their emotions for you.

Why do narcissists take rejection so hard?

They’re the ones that actually have an overlay of an antisocial personality and paranoia. And so they tend even take rejection or no contact so much worse. One thing that you should know is that rejection is the thing that narcissists fear the most. That’s the one thing they do not want to happen to them.

What happens when a narcissist is bent on getting you back?

When a Narcissist is bent on getting you back they will throw everything at you to see what sticks, much like a chef will throw pasta against the wall to see what hangs on and what bounces off. They will pull no punches and you will see everything you’ve ever said thrown back at you in an attempt to weaken your defenses.

Or the narcissist is an extended family member or friend who going no contact with might cause you to lose the other people in the group that connects you.

Can you win against a narcissist?

Oh yes, that’s the last rule: you WILL NOT win. You can’t, because even if by all logical standards and opinions, you are the clear-cut winner, the narcissist will never, ever acknowledge, admit or encourage you to discuss it.

Do both parties have to participate in a narcissistic relationship?

It’s absolutely necessary for both parties to participate if one of you (the narcissist) is going to win in the end. Oh yes, that’s the last rule: you WILL NOT win. You can’t, because even if by all logical standards and opinions, you are the clear-cut winner, the narcissist will never, ever acknowledge, admit or encourage you to discuss it.

Do you have to keep the game going with a narcissist?

No matter what, you must keep the game going. It’s absolutely necessary for both parties to participate if one of you (the narcissist) is going to win in the end. Oh yes, that’s the last rule: you WILL NOT win.