What to say to someone who has been mistreated?
Listen to their story (if they want to talk)
- “Thank you for sharing.”
- “You are not to blame for what happened to you.”
- “You didn’t deserve what happened to you.”
- “I’m sorry this happened to you.”
- “You are not what was done to you.”
- “That was abuse, not healthy sexuality.”
- “I support you in your healing process.”
How do you talk about past abuse?
Tips for sharing
- Preparation. Clarissa says working with her therapist before sharing with anyone else was helpful.
- Let them know your expectations. Dr Moulds says it can be useful to give the other person warning.
- Choose the right time and place.
- Be honest.
- Tell them what you need.
- Support.
Do you have to talk about your trauma with others?
You don’t have to talk about the trauma. Connecting with others doesn’t have to involve talking about the trauma. In fact, for some people, that can just make things worse. Comfort comes from feeling engaged and accepted by others. Ask for support.
How does trauma affect communication skills?
Communication Skills for Traumatized, Abused or Neglected Children The effects of abuse and neglect negatively impact children’s social and academic interactions. Data shows that many children experiencing trauma, abuse and neglect demonstrate compromised narrative language skills.
How can I support a loved one who has suffered trauma?
When a loved one has suffered trauma, your support can play a crucial role in their recovery. Be patient and understanding. Healing from trauma takes time. Be patient with the pace of recovery and remember that everyone’s response to trauma is different.
Can you have a relationship with someone who has been abused?
Survivors of childhood trauma deserve all the peace and security that a loving relationship can provide. But a history of abuse or neglect can make trusting another person feel terrifying. Trying to form an intimate relationship may lead to frightening missteps and confusion.