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Why does it hurt when someone is nice to you?
For this reason, people attempt to modify those loving exchanges rather than go through the painful feelings. Often close moments in a relationship are followed by attempts on the part of one or both partners to take the edge off the experience or to withdraw to a “safer” distance.
Why do I always get hurt by others?
The most common reason we get hurt by another person is: Our ideas of hurt don’t match. Because we all learned as small children to accept our family life as normal, we forget that every other family has their own “normal,” and the differences between those normals can be significant.
Why do people hurt loved ones?
When we hurt someone for no reason, it’s because we fear rejection or disconnection from that person. We hope that, by lashing out, they’ll show us more love, attention or understanding. As a result, we’ll feel ‘safer’ in the relationship. So, we behave badly because we want to feel ‘safe’.
How do I stop getting hurt so easily?
5 Ways to Let Go of Past Hurts
- Make the decision to let it go. Things don’t disappear on their own.
- Express your pain — and your responsibility.
- Stop being the victim and blaming others.
- Focus on the present — the here and now — and joy.
- Forgive them — and yourself.
Why do people lash out?
Psychologists call it displaced aggression, but most of us recognize it as the kick-the-dog effect. Anger and frustration in one part of life can lead us to lash out at innocent people (or pets) in another. The key is rumination, a destructive—and common—mental habit.
Why do nice people not want others to hurt them?
Nice people don’t want others to hurt the way they’ve been hurt. Nice people might have been teased for having freckles, big ears or acne. Maybe a physical disability makes them feel invisible to other people. Maybe an invisible disability itself prevents them from getting the care that they need.
Why do we inflict pain on the people we love?
It’s impossible to go through life without causing hurt to those people we love. We may have to do this for their own good—for instance, when we need to be firm with a child who we believe is engaged in destructive behaviours. We may inflict pain on another person when we need to do what is right for us, such as leaving a relationship.
Why do people who are emotionally hurt tend to be unconfident?
People who are emotionally hurt usually are very unconfident because they’ve been belittled too long and don’t trust their point of view anymore. They live in a continuous cycle of doubts and need constant reassurance that they are on the right track.
Do most people really not set out to hurt others?
But in general most people don’t set out to hurt others. So while it can be a convenient thing to consider when we are really upset, this statement is rarely true. Option #2 – They don’t have a master plan to hurt you but are the type of person who hurts everyone around them.